轉自流利說閱讀Aug.14 · 2020
Think back to the last time you were discussing a challenge at work and someone chimed in to offer their opinion.Did you welcome their advice?Probably not.
Coaching expert and author Michael Bungay Stanier discovered that advice-giving has become endemic in the workplace.He argues that our tendency to dispense advice stems from society teaching us that success means having all the answers.
Most of the time our intentions are good.However, every time we rush in to give advice, we are unleashing what he calls our inner 'advice monster'.He says it needs to stop, because in our haste we are likely to give the wrong advice, or the relationship is too new for the advice to be heeded.
The first step toward taming the advice monster is to pay attention to just how quickly it emerges.Another way of keeping it in check is reflecting on how advice can erode confidence and autonomy in the person on the receiving end.
These days, leaders cannot realistically expect to have all the answers."As a leader, you can't be the expert in everything anymore.It's stressful to put that pressure on yourself, and it creates a bottleneck of everybody having to come to you for the answers, "says Dr Julia Milner, professor of leadership at EDHEC Business School in Nice, France and director of the International Centre for Leadership Coaching.
The answer to the problem is coaching, say experts.It involves helping others devise their own solutions, by asking questions rather than offering advice.
One final piece of advice from Stanier is this: If you do decide to go ahead and give advice, frame it in a way that the other person can ignore it without anyone losing face.
Or don't — that's just our advice.
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Advice monster！一語驚醒夢中人，哈哈。
學習學習...反省反省....
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